Abolish the myth of THEM

The tip for success in 2018.  

The myth of THEM leaves you believing you are separate from the problems you see in others. For 20 years, I have been a witness to, and party in, this delusional story that always begins with this sentiment, “When these people show better leadership we will be able to……….” this is what I call the myth of THEM.

Back in 1950 Albert Einstein had noticed the same behaviour and wrote these words in a letter to Robert S. Marcus. “A human being is part of the whole, called by us “universe,” limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest – a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness”.

Because we experience looking out upon the problem, we see it separated from us. I have noticed that the observers are often delighted with themselves for noticing the issues, which in turn reinforces the most seductive part of the delusion, It’s not me!

The question to ask after hearing the myth of THEM begin is;
What part do I play in all of this?

As Einstein posits, we are all connected in what we call the “universe”; therefore, we are all connected to the company where we have observed the challenges.

This leads to the irrefutable truth; there is no THEM there is just US.

Einstein goes on to warn that the delusion of separation is a prison that restricts our personal desires and limits us.

As a leader, you must free yourself from this prison by widening your circle of compassion to embrace all the people connected in your company and beyond. You must learn through personal awareness that the whole has more value and that the behaviours you see are, in part, created by you.

Your power to create change and build a better company begins when you tear down the delusion of THEM and take your place in US.

good luck in 2018


“The universe is not outside of you. Look inside yourself; everything that you want, you already are.”

― Jalaluddin Mevlana Rumi 13th century

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When you complete the Masterclass, you will recognise what makes you exceptional. You will understand how to leverage your strengths and harness your emotions to maintain a laser focus on your goals.

You will be on your way to developing the kind of clarity of purpose that has been the foundation of all great leaders.  You will have the tools to create a shared vision with your team and understand how to maintain your confidence and a leadership mindset.

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Blaming Kills……

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Some years back we built a tool to help managers understand Mindsets and how to maintain, what we termed, a leadership mindset – i.e. focused on vision, values and goals.

 The premise being, everyone’s mindset shifts because of emotional triggers. Great leaders counter this natural phenomenon by creating a vision they are committed to, by defining values to hold themselves accountable and setting goals to maintain momentum.  Without defining these elements, leaders are just as prone to following their emotions as anyone else.  In effect, triggers cause a shift in mindset, moving us from a flexible, open mindset to a fixed, closed mindset.  A tell-tale sign that this mindset shift has happened is an outbreak of blaming.

 When leaders blame or allow others to blame productivity takes a hit, as does morale and culture.

 Blaming kills productivity because it diverts energy away from the important work of delivering the vision to unproductive work, such as defending yourself, playing politics, inventing proof, worrying, stress, distracted thought patterns, gossip and extra-long breaks to ruminate on the problem of being blamed.


Why do people choose to blame others?

 The first reason is blaming is an excellent way to defend yourself. Blame helps you deflect attention to someone else or something else, which in turn allows you to deny the reality of the situation and displace the accountability. By doing this, you can avoid examining your flaws and maintain your self-esteem even though you are probably damaging someone else.

 Secondly, blame is an attack tool. It is often used to hurt colleagues and partners, by calling their competence or motivates into question.

 Thirdly, it is much easier to blame others than it is to assess the situation objectively, to develop an informed picture of what is happening, and assign accountability and responsibility to all the parties involved.

 Blaming requires less effort and gives you an emotional win – like a jolt of cocaine, you feel good fast but only for a short time. The real problem lives on after the blaming stops.

 Everyone lies! Read Feldman’s “The Liar in Your Life”, and you’ll be both surprised and sobered by the reality of lying in everyday life.

Feldman’s work shows how easy it is to lie and blame someone else even when you know you are at fault. He also notes that the more you play the blame game, the more you lose.

What has this to do with leadership?

One of the cornerstones of great leadership is awareness. If you accept that everyone lies at some point and everyone blames to attack or avoid responsibility, you must develop tactics to counter the effects of this behaviour in both yourself and others close to you.

The Performance-Life-Cycle is a tool that helps you notice your behaviour and recognize the emotional triggers cause you to lose focus on vision, values and goals. This tool also provides a safe way for those close to you to talk about their triggers and behaviour.

Unlimitedly, the cure for blaming is open dialogue in a safe environment that allows people to explore what is happening for them and to build trust in resolving problems openly

Centred Leaders

It is so easy to begin your day rushing frantically to work. However, that perceived value of getting in early is often lost because of the stress you experience.

Choosing a different path will help your productivity precisely because it reduces feelings of stress and overwhelm.

Being centred brings you to a calm place within yourself, where you can notice your inner-self, your energy and your connectedness to the energy around you.

When you take time to acknowledge you as a being without labels, without tasks, without obligations, you will find a calm serenity that will help you keep your perspective on what truly matters in your life.

Noticing that there is a space between hope and disappointment, success and failure, joyfulness and sadness, between passionate and indifference, where you can be still, reminds you that calm can exist within the chaos of daily work.

This sense of tranquility will help you be more productive, make better decisions and better choices.


Companies that are led by passion are remarkable places

Companies that are led by passion are remarkable places to work because they hold the potential for greatness.

When most of us think about start-ups, we build pictures of smart, young, vibrant entrepreneurs with technology to sell.

When I think about start-ups, I am excited by experiencing passion that is so palpable it infects me too.

Start-ups and early stage growth companies are places fuelled by possibilities and unlimited opportunities.  They face many interesting challenges, from building systems just ahead of the business need, to working with fewer people than needed to get the job done comfortably, or satisfying customers who are only just discovering they have a need.

There is also an important, and often hidden, challenge how to hold on to the ethos of the business as it grows.

It doesn’t matter if the pathway to growth is organic and through acquisitions, scaling-up creates new problems that won’t we solved with technology.    These new opportunities are largely organisational and interpersonal which is why founders who have been successful understand that the most critical capability they needed to successfully scale-up was leadership.

Good advice

When starting to lead the change program that will see your company transform, take a little advice from Meg Whitman “… figure out what that company’s doing right, and do more of it.”  The real challenge when growth happens is holding on to the essential ethos of the business.  The first step I ask founders to take, is to protect the culture their passion has created, because this is their secret weapon.   I tell them take time-out to understand what you have created; why it works? And why it is important to the people that have made a choice to join you?

Looking at what is great, and understanding what makes people happy, will tell you what to focus on as a starting point.

Shifting attention

Most founders fall in love with the technology or the idea that they saw as the opportunity for their business.  Once teams are in place, and the products are being delivered to customers, it’s time to shift attention.  This move can be tough, but it is essential to the successful transition into sustainable growth.

Skyscanner, a company that has enjoyed fast growth and success understands this shift and has managed to create awareness throughout its management layers.  Filip Filipov, Director of Product in 2015, blogged a quote from Peter Drucker, ‘Culture eats strategy for breakfast’ highlighting the philosophical shift from logic to the importance of the emotional element of leadership. He then went on to write “…. the watershed that splits good companies from great ones will be the culture and the leadership behaviours that shape it.”  Filip humbly signed off with an apology for not exhibiting the right leadership behaviours as often as he would like to have.

The Skyscanner leadership team understands the value of this shift as the source of its success.

It’s not beanbags and pinball machines

Culture is the feelings you share working in a place; it’s the ideas, customs, and social behaviour of a particular group of people working for a common purpose.  It’s unique. It can’t be faked into being by buying pinball machines, or painting art on walls, or having beanbags and cool furniture. The authentic nature of any group’s culture is observable. How they treat each other, what they share, how they look, the documents they create, the meetings they have, the things they talk about and what they produce are clues to the culture at work.

Cultural artefacts also include myths and stories that tell how the company became a success. These stories have heroes and heroines who have been key to the business; they (the stories) become a system of metaphors that tell people what is expected of them. The same too can be said of physical attributes, such as, how the office or factory looks, the interior and exterior design, the equipment used.  Fuzzball tables, beanbags, coloured walls, and slogans, are valuable artefacts or rituals that work for a business when they are genuine expressions of a core culture that is aligned with the future ambitions of the business.

Words and actions count

When Meg Whitman tore down the wood panelling of the old executive offices at HP, it sent a clear message of a change in culture. She commented “… we never actually had to publicise this; 330,000 HP people knew [it] within about 32.5 seconds.”

Gandhi wrote.

“Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny.”

His words are remarkably relevant to today’s leaders and founders creating new value for a future world. Beliefs and values shape how things get done, announce what is important and dictate how people are treated.   Keeping the culture, relevant, aligned, vibrant and enabling takes care and attention.

Howard Schultz, the man who founded the most successful coffee company in the world, Starbucks, has lived through start-up to a high-growth company and offers this lesson “Success is not sustainable if it is defined by how big you become or by growth for growth’s sake.  Success is very shallow if it doesn’t have emotional meaning.”

Belief is an emotion that expresses who we are in the world. If you are the leader what you believe matters because it can shape the way your managers handle your business.  When Schultz left Starbucks, managers lost their way over time and nearly destroyed the business he had started. When he returned his first order of business was to re-establish the values to get back to the core ethos that shaped the company in the first place. He then took the bold, and expensive, step of closing every outlet worldwide to train each member of the Starbucks team how to make a great cup of coffee.

He wanted Starbucks to be known, once again, for the quality of its coffee and not for the size of the company.

Understand – Shift – Symbols – Breed

Growth is a good thing that can make your company great if you understand what you are doing right and do more of it.

Shift your attention to building your leadership team and take care to tell the stories that matter.

Create positively authentic symbols of your culture and care about your beliefs enough to breed a great leadership culture that will take your company into the future.

Why change needs leadership

Create the path

Organisations need people who challenge the status quo and look for new sources of value because business-as-usual leads to decline. Disruptors are everywhere and are very much part of the 21st-century competitive landscape.

Step 1. Generate Urgency

There are plenty of examples of companies that have been left behind because they didn’t have leadership looking into the future. Kodak missed the digital revolution, Nokia missed the smartphone shift, Amstrad was once the UK’s largest computer supplier that lost its foothold because it failed to understand the concept of networking, and DEC (The Digital Equipment Corp) in the 80’s was second only to IBM. However, its president proclaimed that there would never be a market for a computer in the home. Oops!

It takes leadership to step outside of the b-a-u model and start to generate a real sense of urgency amongst key stakeholders. The pushback comes in waves of logic insisting that the business needs to focus on the here-and-now. This kind of logic is hard to defeat because it has certainty on its side and it can be backed up with accurate projections.

Following the same path is seductive because to looks safe, but it’s only a matter time before a new business model shatters this illusion.

Step 2. Get the right people onboard

Effecting change requires a team of influential stakeholders that are interested in exploring the future.  Finding the next disruptive innovation is a challenging exercise. Turning it into a commercial success requires more than the willpower of one individual, it requires complementary knowledge and skills that only a team can bring.

To address the logical arguments for the existing business model, you must develop more compelling and robust arguments for the new prototype. Tools such as the business canvas and design thinking are essential and require a team to test assumptions, build hypothesis and research changes. Pulling this team together and engaging them in search the future is the output of great leadership.

Step 3. Developing a Vivid Vision of the Future

As most successful athletes will tell you, seeing the win before it happens is a critical component of their preparation for success.

Setting out to build a vivid vision opens up the list of topics to be discussed by the team. It shifts the focus from big generic ideas to specific details that make the vision more tangible. Conversations about what the offices will look like are not trivial because they open up discussions about culture, people and the kinds of aspirations that the team has about where and how they want to work. Storytelling, in this way, improves how the teammates understand each other’s values and motivators. Sharing builds the team’s common ground and develops a sense of belonging which creates the bond necessary to enable them to meet tough challenges together.

Step 4. Communicating the vision clearly and often

When you develop the vision, follow Elon Musk’s example, check out his plan to colonise Mars, rich visualisations are within everyone’s grasp; use pictures, videos, animations, and of course PowerPoint to share and more importantly allow audiences to interact with the vision. The questions people ask are sources of enrichment, especially questions you or your team have not yet asked.

The more you share, the more you can learn, providing you remain open to questions and are curious about the views of others. Seeing your vision from multiple perspectives adds ideas that can be used to make your vision better and more vivid.

Step 5. Removing obstacles

If you are going to disrupt your own company’s business model, there will be obstacles that will need attention.

Map out the plan to get from where you are to where your future lies. Plot major obstacles and begin by asking who do you need to put in a room to remove each obstacle. For inspiration, think about the challenge that faced Steve Jobs when he wanted to launch iTunes. Jobs and his team had to convince the record label bosses to put their collections in their store online. This intervention created the digital music market.

Step 6. Celebrate Short term wins and avoid premature declarations of victory

Disrupting an industry can bring quick wins. Celebrating these is an important strategy to maintain the high levels of engagement needed to turn quick wins into a sustainable business model. At this point, the leader must become a chess player.

Planning to celebrate small wins is an exercise in maintaining morale as well as building culture. Every successful leader knows that culture is the key to sustaining a successful business. As plans are executed, what gets celebrated, and what is rewarded, tell the story of what is being built, these are the cultural artefacts that people share, and they will become the mythology of the business.

This is why change needs leaders. It takes leadership to guide people through all of these steps and engage the many stakeholders needed to make change a reality.

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It’s never too late to follow your dreams

2016 is almost gone

Inspiring Vision

2016 is almost gone.

Was it the year you wanted it to be?  Big changes happened, for sure. Some have left some people worried and others elated.   These big changes will affect all our lives slowly.   The changes that matter most are the little ones because they affect our lives more quickly and more meaningfully.   Little changes that make a difference to your significant relationships, to your health, or to your dreams.


Make 2017 the year you care about the little changes.


Start with your dreams.

  • What had you planned?
  • Where were you going?
  • How close are you now?

Dreams change as life shows up and we see new value in things we didn’t understand.  For instance, when you have kids.  When you are young, children are a possible part of your future, but when they arrive and you hold your baby in your arms for the first time, your dreams change in little ways that have a profound affect on your future.  This is normal and it’s OK.

However, the drama that surrounds change can obscure your view and stop you from staying connected to what is important to you, perhaps forcing you to make compromises that seemed inevitable.   Sometimes all we seem to have is Hobson’s choice, which is no choice at all.

The good news is, you are older now and wiser too.  You can examine your life’s choices and compare these to the dreams you had for yourself and decide where you want to go now.    If you do this today, focus on your heart’s desires, your passion in life and not material possessions.  In the final analysis, stuff won’t bring meaning to your life, whereas purpose and passion will.

Age is not a reason for not chasing your dreams, being older can be a real bonus.  If you need some inspiration check out this list of awesome people who didn’t launch their dreams until they were older.


In their 40s

  • At 40 Donald Fisher, with no experience in retail, opened the first Gap store in San Francisco in 1969 with his wife, Doris.
  • Vera Wang only entered the fashion industry at 40; now she’s a world-famous designer.
  • At 43 Samuel L. Jackson had only had bit parts and then in 1991 he landed an award-winning role in Spike Lee’s film “Jungle Fever”.
  • Sam Walton was a retail manager through his 20s and 30s. He was 44 before he stepped out on his own and opened the first Walmart in Rogers, Arkansas, in 1962.
  • Henry Ford was 45 when he created the car that revolutionized the auto business – Model T.

In their 50s

  • Jack Cover became a successful entrepreneur at 50 when he invented the Taser gun in 1970, before this he worked as a scientist for NASA and IBM.
  • Betty White was 51 when she joined the cast of “The Mary Tyler Moore Show” in 1973, this was the break that leads to her iconic status today.
  • Tim and Nina Zagat were both 51-year-old lawyers when they published their first collection of restaurant reviews under the Zagat name in 1979. It eventually became a mark of culinary authority.
  • Ray Kroc was 52 when he decided to leave his career as a milkshake device salesman and bought McDonald’s which, as everyone knows, he grew into the world’s biggest fast-food franchise.

In their 60s

  • If you grew up loving the TV show “Little House on the Prairie,” consider that Laura Ingalls Wilder published the first in the “Little House” books at age 65 in 1932.
  • Harland Sanders was 62 when he franchised Kentucky Fried Chicken in 1952.
  • Anna Mary Robertson Moses, better known as Grandma Moses, began her prolific painting career at 78.


Look into your heart, find your dream again, and start a new in 2017.

The biggest risk to business growth is the BOSS


If you are the BOSS then pay attention.   Generally speaking, most bosses I meet want to succeed and they want their businesses to grow.  This seems very reasonable, given the alternatives; no growth, little success or complete decline.

Yet many businesses do suffer decline or no growth.   When I get a call it usually starts with “we need more leadership…..”  and this logic again sounds reasonable, “ If we had more managers who could step-up we would have more strategically important problems solved.”

 There is nothing wrong with this assertion.   General idea: If we give managers new skills, feedback and develop their self of awareness success will follow.  WRONG!

If we do these things and then give them a new management environment to work in, success would have a real chance.

So what is wrong the management environment?  The BOSS.